Dating a narcissistic person
However, as time progressed, I found in my own therapy practice that, indeed, there exist some individuals on this planet with narcissistic challenges.
For many reasons, that deeper connection to self can be absent.
Simply put, due to a combination of severe trauma and a collection of beliefs that state that ‘facing the trauma will just make things worse’ someone can actually become completely cut off from their inner experiences. With such disconnection comes the inability to deeply connect to others.
Maybe your computer, or cellphone / i-phone, or MP3 player. I imagine that, for a narcissist, it would be akin to asking you to sit in front of your computer and connect to its soul. Chances are, you’re not going to find anything to connect to.
You know how an appliance like that can make a great contribution to our lives, to the point where, when it’s working, we really love it for doing all those things? You know how, when you truly love someone, whether it’s a person, or even a pet, you can get really angry at them, yet despite the anger, you still feel love for them? Unconditional love requires an awareness of a presence beyond appearances.
I feel I owe it to the people I work with in therapy, and others who may be in similar circumstances, to assist with educating the public about narcissistic abuse, so that people can be informed and aware of how to protect themselves in the event they encounter people with narcissistic traits.