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Gilda, It has been almost a year since I fled my marriage, which was very abusive and ended in divorce.For most of this year, I have been floundering, but I have started to pick up the pieces and put myself back together.Yes, focusing on what's inside is more important — but that's easier said than done.
However, I also deal with so many ignorant men who make a huge deal about my height, probably to bury their own insecurity or intimidation.
They make endless unwarranted comments, trying to reassure me that I don't seem "too tall" or "too big." They'll say, "You carry it well," or "Just don't wear heels and you're fine." They act shocked when I say I'm six feet, and beg me to stand back-to-back. These comments also imply that there's a cutoff at which a woman's height becomes unattractive and unacceptable — and that luckily, I fall below it.
A survey of the users of an online computer-mediated matchmaking service showed that their communication patterns and objectives varied by their sex, shyness level, and appearance.
Men generally contacted women more than vice versa, but a substantial minority of the women contacted a great number of men, suggesting that the safety and anonymity the system offered helped them break free from traditional sex role norms.
“Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.” ~Unknown I’m all too aware that dating can feel like a grinding, painful roller coaster to nowhere.